Children of all ages will benefit from caregivers’ use of a appropriate expectations that draw on existing strengths. When expectations are clearly defined and communicated in a supportive way, it is likely children and adolescents will want to meet them. Holding high expectations for a child and/or adolescent communicates the message “I believe you are capable.” When young people meet these high expectations, they gain self-confidence and pride.
1. Help your child identify their hopes, dreams, and goals.
2. Support your child to work toward meeting these hopes, dreams, and goals.
3. Highlight your child’s individual strengths and avoid comparing them to siblings and/or peers.
4. Express your belief, repeatedly and consistently, in your child’s abilities and strengths.
5. Provide feedback that is specific and clear (e.g. state what you noticed the child doing that moved toward meeting high expectations. “Wow, I noticed when that situation got challenging, you stuck with it for a long time even though it would have been easier to quit.”)
1. Convey expectations for student to act and react to social situations in positive ways.
2. In a patient and gentle manner, expect more academically from students with each passing day, lesson, and marking period.
3. Set the expectation for all students to follow school and classroom rules and to be a part of the classroom’s management.
4. Communicate your belief in your students (e.g. to pass tests, to be able to make and maintain friendships, to graduate high school).
5. Convey the expectation that students become meaningful participants in their schools, neighborhoods, and communities.
6. Hold expectations for student to become active citizens who care about community issues.
7. Help students identify their own hopes, dreams, and goals and support their progress toward achieving them.
8. Highlight the students’ individual strengths and avoid comparing them to their peers.